I'm sure many of you have yet to go Christmas shopping for your wives because you're still wondering what she really wants (or simply because it's not Christmas Eve yet, right?). I'm also sure that whenever you try to ask her while she's busy with the kids or making sure dinner is on the table, she probably dismisses you with a "Oh, nothing specific." Maybe you were planning on the go-to gift of jewelry or a massage gift card, and I'm sure your wife will genuinely appreciate all of that.
But today I'm here to let you in on a little secret. It's the kind of secret that us women all know each other want and yet none of us will ever ask for. This kind of gift will leave the mother of your children absolutely speechless.
What she really wants for Christmas is a break.
Listen to me. She loves you and the family you've built together more than anything on this planet, and she probably thinks that asking for some time away from it all sounds like she doesn't. Those sorts of thoughts are why we never say, "What I really want for Christmas is a girls weekend." If your wife has ever said that, then applaud her for being willing to admit that she needs it. Not all women can do that. This is also about more than you doing the laundry every once in a while for her, thought trust me- she appreciates that. I am willing to bet that she appreciates all of the things you do to help, which is another reason why she'll never ask for a little time away by herself. It's an occupational hazard of being a woman sometimes. We're awful at asking for help, especially when it feels selfish (at least to us).
As many of you know, I participate in a weekend-long Challenge Walk with the National MS Society every year. I love seeing all of my friends I have met over the years at that event, but one of my favorite parts of that weekend is having a hotel room all to myself for two whole nights. Ladies, that sounds like heaven, right!
Speaking from experience, I feel like my batteries are recharged every time I come home from visiting my close friend in California. The phrase I have used often is that during those trips I get to just be Jenny. I am not anyone's mom or anyone's wife for just a few days, and the autonomy is rejuvenating. Again, that doesn't mean I can't wait to get back to them and will hug my boys tighter than before after a few days away, but to not be responsible for and answering to anyone else for a little while can really refresh a woman who is used to having little humans crawling on them 24/7. Something as little as being able to eat meals when you are actually hungry and not when everyone else is can be huge. If your wife has never had some time away, there is an excellent chance she doesn't even realize how good this would be for her, which is another reason why she'll never ask for it.
It doesn't have to be anything elaborate. If she's an outdoorsy type, book her a cabin at a state park for the weekend. Call a friend of hers and see if they want to go spend a weekend at their favorite winery. Even just a night in a hotel in the city where they can walk around and shop all by themselves for a weekend will mean the world. Team up with your wife's girlfriend's husbands, and send a group of them somewhere together. I can guarantee you that will earn all over you amazing husband points.
Give the mother of your children the gift she'll never ask for but will truly appreciate; a recharged battery.
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