Its also the time of year when the Mommy Wars are back in full swing, and I am honestly dreading back to school this year because I'm not in the mood to deal with it right now.
Part of back to school shopping is also making sure they have plenty of school clothing. My boys and I recently went through their jeans and khaki pants to make sure they had stuff that fit. During the summer months they spend so much time in shorts that they are never in their jeans. I always know they've shot up by the end of August, and sure enough they had.
As I've mentioned to some of my friends and fellow moms that I still needed to go shopping for jeans and khakis for school, many of them have scoffed or downright laughed at me. "Jeans? You're kids actually wear jeans to school? Mine would never do that; all they want to wear is their athletic pants or basketball shorts. And khakis? Please. My kids would want to know if we were going to church."
None of that is an exaggeration. I have had that conversation multiple times this Summer.
Now, that may sound like they are just chuckling at the fact that their own kid wants to wear sweatpants to school everyday, but these same parents will look at my sons in a couple months and say, "Why are you all dressed up?" when they are in jeans and a polo shirt. I then watch the nervous look and even sometimes a nervous laugh come across my boys' face.
That's right, these parents are trying to make my son second-guess what he put on that morning over jeans and a fucking polo shirt. Seriously? When did that become 'dressed up', by the way? Should I look at their child standing there in sweatpants and say, "Why did you come to school in your pajamas?" Of course not, because that would make me an awful human being, something I make a concerted effort not to be everyday.
Why is it okay to chastise someone for choosing to dress well when it wouldn't be for choosing to be comfortable?
I strongly believe that when you look good you feel good, and that confidence changes how you face the day in front of you. It is one of the reasons I love wearing dresses almost daily. Yes, they are incredibly comfortable (I joke that it's one step up from a pillowcase), but I also know I look nice. The same is true for our kids, and that lesson is actually something my kids and I have talked about. Now, if your kids are confident in those Under Armour shorts, that's fantastic. It really is. My kids know they look good in those jeans they picked out, and that confidence will make better students.
Being successful students, as well as successful human beings, is what matters, regardless of whether they are in basketball shorts or khaki shorts on the first day of school. Can we all get on board with that?
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